Tips that help reduce stress

Stress, also known as the silent killer, can be defined as a state of mental or emotional pressure resulting from difficult or very challenging situations. Basically, it is life happening all around us and the seemingly insurmountable weight of it all. Life happens to everyone and everyone will (at some point) encounter stress. We all respond to stress in different ways but learning to structure our lives around it can ultimately be a matter of life and death, sickness or good health. Below are a few stress-reducing tips you can try.

Tip #1
Breathe, baby breathe
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Deep breathing works. It really does. When I had my first child, the doctors and nurses told me to breathe, inhale through your nose (your diaphragm contracts and your lungs expand), and exhale slowly through pursed lips. This was my first introduction to deep breathing and over the years I have found that this technique has many amazing and powerful benefits, mainly being instrumental in reducing stress, improving sleep, optimizing your immune system and so much more. So when faced with a stressful situation, before you become unglued, take a moment to sit quietly and breathe deeply!

Tip #2
Pray, Meditate and Refocus
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There are situations that we will encounter that are beyond our human control. We are not super people with super human strength, contrary to popular belief. This life will get crazy and that’s when we need to take it to the Lord in prayer. Prayer, like deep breathing, works. It is the understanding that we cannot control or fix everything and everybody that brings us to our knees. Learning to pray sincerely, meditate honestly on God’s word and taking time to refocus on what’s really important in our lives, will reduces stress immensely.

Tip #3
Laugh
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This one is fun. Laugh! Hard and loud and until your stomach cramps and the tears soak your cheeks. Laughter is your internal medication, its God’s natural remedy for a soul-ache. What Tylenol does for your headache, good old-fashioned laughter does for your soul’s-ache. It works!

Tip #4
Read a good book
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We can get so caught up in the hub-bub of life that we forget how relaxing it is to sit down with a steamy/hot romance novel or an inspirational self-help book that not only takes your mind off your problems but gives your brain the inspirational work-out that it needs. There have been studies that determine that reading is the work-out your brain needs in order to stay in its optimal health. Reading reduces stress and expands your knowledge; it’s a win-win situation!

Tip #5
Music calms the savage beast (called stress)
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This is another one of my favorite stress relievers. The power of music is remarkable in so many ways and has so many incredible benefits. We can actually calm that beast called stress by listening to our favorite songs, regardless of the genre. Listening to soft classical or jazz can help slow down your pulse and heart rate, lower your blood pressure, and decrease stress hormone levels, while up-beat tempo music can help boost your self-esteem, improve your mood, your concentration and so much more. So close your eyes and relax as your stress dissipates into the sounds and rhythms of melodic pleasure.

A few other stress reducers are, going on walks in the evening, riding a bike, working out, watching a sunset, singing, going to the beach, fishing, journaling, road trips, pampering yourself at a day spa, doing Yoga, sitting in a hot tub, going to the movies, volunteering, reading your bible, eating ice cream (or your favorite treat), simplifying your life and spending quality time with good friends and family. Can you think of other ways to minimize stress?
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At whatever cost, reduce the stress and relax. YOLO (you only live once)!

Love,
Toni

Homeschooling, It’s a New Day!

HOMESCHOOLING JORDAN DINING ROOM Hello wordpress family, I’m back, for today, at least. I’ve been missing in action for several weeks and this is why. . .

I’m the proud new mother of a 7th grade homeschool student! Woo Hoo!

Well, in the beginning it started out, “Mom I love being home schooled, I wish we could have done this a long time ago.” But today it’s, “Aww, mom, this is too hard, I wanna go back to public school.”

Well, that’s not happening, LOL. I’ve come too far and had to fill out too much paperwork and jump through too many hoops to get here, so now we’re going to stick it out until the end! Besides, I’ve started to like this ‘learning with my child’ idea. Not only am I taking a very active part in his education as his primary instructor, but I know EXACTLY what he’s being taught, I’M THE TEACHER, YAY! The challenge may be great, but the rewards are greater!!!

So to every parent who has homeschooled their children, my hat goes off to you and for any parent who may be considering it, please research it fully and if it’s something your child will benefit from, please do it.

Now, I’m only a beginner, but I will have wonderful stories to tell you as my son and I both learn about integers (math), the Supreme Court (history), and how to say apples in French (des pommes – day pom)! What an exciting journey ahead.

Love,
Toni

Reflections of My Soul (Blessed)

brushing teethI was talking to my friend in Oklahoma the other day about how good God is! She was feeling a little down because she was having a difficult time making ends meet. Her job doesn’t pay well and to make matters worse, she’s changing shifts, and getting a pay cut.

“What am I going to do?” she inquired. “I don’t want to lose my apartment and I’m already behind on most of my bills. I am so tired of struggling, when will this ever end?” my friend sobbed.

“I know it gets hard sometimes and there are days when you cannot see your way. But it WILL get better, believe me! I remember years ago as a single mother how I struggled and sacrificed just to make life better for my three children,” I consoled.

“The hardest thing I went through, even more difficult than being homeless, was living with no water,” I said. “Girl, did you know that it takes exactly two gallons of water to flush a toilet, something we take for granted everyday. And if we leave the water running while brushing our teeth for at least 45 seconds, we will WASTE about 1.875 gallons of water. This is mind-staggering.” Remembering those days of going to public restrooms to use the bathroom and brush our teeth and car washes to get ‘free’ water to fill up our empty gallon jugs brought tears to my eyes.

“But God is good. I am a much better person and mother after going through difficult times. I believe like my mother once said, our trials come to make us strong.”

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Today I am blessed, abundantly blessed. I understand the value of life, love and family and I appreciate the simple things in life that I once took for granted.

Love,
Toni

Book Trailer

Book trailers are HOT! I just learned how to navigate through a program that helps you design videos for your books or anything else you may want to share a visual message about. Whether it’s an online training, a webinar, a new product, or your new book, video messages are powerful.

Soooo, check out my new trailer for my book, The 2 Faces of a Preacher’s Wife.

Love,
Toni

Author’s Quote for the Day – Example

sunrise one“The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but to reveal to him his own.”
― Benjamin Disraeli

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Write your story so compelling that others will want to follow in your footsteps one day. Shine the light! -Toni J. Spearman

Love,
Toni

Author’s Quote for the Day

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“Write the kind of story you would like to read. People will give you all sorts of advice about writing, but if you are not writing something you like, no one else will like it either.”
― Meg Cabot
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WRITE IT. CREATE IT. DESIGN IT. DO IT. BE IT. Because if you don’t, you’ll stop breathing. – Toni J. Spearman

Love,
Toni